Am I being ostracized?
Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2014 3:57 pm
I've noticed over the last few weeks how David Johnson has repeatedly tried to bring up other disagreements and squabbles I've had with other posters when I speak to them. One one occasion he even did it in a thread where I was encouraging an old, friendly poster to post more often.
His latest one was here>
As you can see, it was a short exchange between Robches and I and Johnson comes in to remind Robches and me of our previous spat from a few weeks ago. Why? What is David's motive here if it isn't to drive a wedge between other forumites because he gets some perverse satisfaction from it?
Except, he doesn't seem to do it with others so much, just me. Here he is again, on the same day, bringing up past disagreements I have had with Arg and Max:
There are a few more like the one above that I can't be bothered to search for, but this strategy of creating divisions between me and other forumites is not a one off.
The one that really upset me in any meaningful way was when I was just greeting and old friend, alicia_fan_uk, who'd not posted in about 2 years and I'd rather politely requested for them to post more often. A harmless, friendly exchange between two forumites to which David Johnson had to chime in with a reminder about a very old (maybe over 2 years old?) exchange between me and Max. Again, for only one fathomable reason and that is to create divisions between me and other forumites.
Here is the post: I called Max a 'thick cunt'. I have apologised to Max twice since then and twice Max has accepted the apology.
This one was the one that got under my skin because I was trying to encourage another poster to contribute to the forums and David was more interested in point-scoring with a poster who rarely has a bad word to say about anybody (from memory) and seemed a rather nice chap. I thought bringing up the mine and David's ongoing jibes at one another into an innocent exchange with alicia_fan_uk was a little rude and disrespectful to alicia_fan_uk. It was petty, opportunistic and I doubt alicia_fan_uk wanted to be drawn into it all.
So...here I am, someone that will, on occasion, call you a cunt. I will, to be fair to myself, apologise if I feel I've been out of order. And, unlike some, it will be a proper, straight-down-the-line-no-messing-about-apology. I won't play games saying weasley things like 'I have no problem apologising to you' without actually apologising. I'm not that arrogant.
On the other hand, you have a man that refuses to apologise (properly) and is currently participating in a systematic strategy of ostracization towards another forumite because they disagree on certain issues. This behaviour is beyond name-calling, sarcastic jibes and even character assassination. It's pre-planned instances of attempting to exclude an individual from the group. It's an attempt to get the group to shun somebody for no reason but their own gratification. It's probably the lowest thing one can do outside direct threats of violence on an internet forum.
It's all got unnecessarily nasty.
His latest one was here>
As you can see, it was a short exchange between Robches and I and Johnson comes in to remind Robches and me of our previous spat from a few weeks ago. Why? What is David's motive here if it isn't to drive a wedge between other forumites because he gets some perverse satisfaction from it?
Except, he doesn't seem to do it with others so much, just me. Here he is again, on the same day, bringing up past disagreements I have had with Arg and Max:
There are a few more like the one above that I can't be bothered to search for, but this strategy of creating divisions between me and other forumites is not a one off.
The one that really upset me in any meaningful way was when I was just greeting and old friend, alicia_fan_uk, who'd not posted in about 2 years and I'd rather politely requested for them to post more often. A harmless, friendly exchange between two forumites to which David Johnson had to chime in with a reminder about a very old (maybe over 2 years old?) exchange between me and Max. Again, for only one fathomable reason and that is to create divisions between me and other forumites.
Here is the post: I called Max a 'thick cunt'. I have apologised to Max twice since then and twice Max has accepted the apology.
This one was the one that got under my skin because I was trying to encourage another poster to contribute to the forums and David was more interested in point-scoring with a poster who rarely has a bad word to say about anybody (from memory) and seemed a rather nice chap. I thought bringing up the mine and David's ongoing jibes at one another into an innocent exchange with alicia_fan_uk was a little rude and disrespectful to alicia_fan_uk. It was petty, opportunistic and I doubt alicia_fan_uk wanted to be drawn into it all.
So...here I am, someone that will, on occasion, call you a cunt. I will, to be fair to myself, apologise if I feel I've been out of order. And, unlike some, it will be a proper, straight-down-the-line-no-messing-about-apology. I won't play games saying weasley things like 'I have no problem apologising to you' without actually apologising. I'm not that arrogant.
On the other hand, you have a man that refuses to apologise (properly) and is currently participating in a systematic strategy of ostracization towards another forumite because they disagree on certain issues. This behaviour is beyond name-calling, sarcastic jibes and even character assassination. It's pre-planned instances of attempting to exclude an individual from the group. It's an attempt to get the group to shun somebody for no reason but their own gratification. It's probably the lowest thing one can do outside direct threats of violence on an internet forum.
It's all got unnecessarily nasty.