wanting to make an erotic video... but how?

[Cerrone]

Hello,
First time poster here...

Basically, I have a major fantasy about having sex on video, and it being posted online for people to see.

I'm a very conventional guy, quite shy really, and have never done anything like this before. But that's why I want to do it.

Thing is, I'm single, and all my female friends are pretty conventional themselves and I wouldn't dare broach anything like this with them.

Googling took me to a site advertising 'pornstar escorts'... like an escort agency but you pay the girls to appear in a sex video with you, professionally produced etc etc... but looking at the pictures of the girls, it's clear that it would all be in the style of mainstream porn that do nothing for me, not what I want at all.
And besides, I want a woman to be in this video with me because she wants to be, not because she is being paid to be.

I wondered what form the video would take... at its most basic, it could have been a camcorder on a stand pointed at a bed... or there are companies who make videos for couples for around ?350, with female camera operators. I think probably the latter would be better to make something I'd want to see, and want other people to see. It sounds like a lot of money, but I'm buying an amazing experience here, so I think it will be money well spent.

So over the last few days, I have posted the following 'ad', profile if you like, to various adult websites... it encapsulates exactly what I am trying to do....

MALE SEEKS COMPATIBLE ENGLISH-BASED FEMALE FOR TRULY AMATEUR EROTIC VIDEO EXPERIENCE.

Hi, my name's Matthew, thank you for taking the time to read this.

I am looking for a female to take part with me in the making of an amateur erotic video. This is a truly 'amateur' project... I am not looking to make any money from this... just explore and break through some taboos, and have a fulfilling experience, which I can share with *you*.

You will be female... between 25 and 55 years of age... yes, age is relatively unimportant to me in this. For what it's worth, I am a young looking 42 year old male, often mistaken for ten years younger... a recent face pic will be yours on request.

There needs to be some sort of mutual sexual attraction for this to work. I am not looking to make a 'porno'.... I want to do something as far from mainstream porn as possible, ie something natural and truly erotic... think Margo Stilley in 9 Songs...
My idea is for this to be sexy and sensual... therefore, lots of kissing, gentle touching, licking... oral sex by me on you and, if you wish, you on me... and eventually, protected penetration and hopefully mutual satisfaction. No anal, no bondage, nothing really kinky except a camera recording us as we enjoy each other's bodies.

The video will be made by an experienced female camera operator. Once edited, we will each receive a DVD copy. My idea then is to upload it to some carefully chosen websites... you, as my female partner, will have joint ownership of this whole thing, and we will agree beforehand which websites it will be posted to.

You will, I hope, have a sense of fun and a certain sense of innocence... this is a totally new experience for me, so I am not looking for a porn star or wannabe porn star... just a normal, fun loving, light hearted female who is as curious to see themselves having sex as I am... and is attracted to the idea of persons unknown being able to watch at a later date.

So please feel free to get in touch and ask any questions you may have... hopefully we'll be able to meet up over coffee or something and have a good talk about what we'd both want out of this... and if we find our hopes and ideals co-incide, everything can be arranged!
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As of yet, all I have received are obvious spam replies trying to take me to rip-off paid dating and contact websites.
I feel I need to focus this scattergun approach, and really need some advice on the best method to reach the kind of truly amateur female who would be interested in this.

It might be the best website to go on, or it might involve printed contact magazines, or it might involve getting off the web altogether and going somewhere to meet like-minded females. But I need the advice, so if anyone can help, I'd be most grateful!

Thanks for reading!
Matthew.

[Lizard]

Well, no one could doubt your sincerity, but If I were you I would forget it, crack one off, and get a real girlfriend, one who is happy to show her arse and face all over the internet, I don't think you are going to achieve what you want with an escort or anyone else, or trawl through somewhere like Punternet.

[planeterotica]

You are looking for a needle in a haystack, in your ad you dont mention any payment, just rewrite it and mention ?500.00 and you will get loads of replies...

[Cerrone]

I said I didn't want to make any money out of this. I think that would be out of most people's price range....

[andy at handiwork]

Well if it's out of your price range I doubt if your idea will go any further.

[Cerrone]

Read the above again... maybe I should have used smilies... !whistle!

[Lizard]

So to sumerise you want to fuck someone on camera, do it under your terms, in your style, and then bang it all over the internet for all to see, but dont want any payment for it, and if possible you dont want to pay the girl either, dream on buttercup, as graham said above, get on a escort site, get ?500 notes ready, and look for a great actress .

[steve56]

Shane Ritchie will help you im sure