Hello J,
Ah you found my mega post Yep - I got well pissed off with a certain lady who did a no show and then was just plain rude to me several times. Can't say who here.
Thank you for your nice comments (I'm blushing here).
I was quitting the business but now am working on a way to redefine the business. Luckily I have months worth of new footage for my site and even some new faces to put on the site so it will keep going for many months to come and then a friend of mine is taking over the photography and video work for the site.
Disillusioned with the Industry
Re: Disillusioned with the Industry
hi.
There are a multitude of problems with the porn industry- primarily there is no real regulation of what is going on... it is so unaccepted by the mainstream that there is plenty scope for girls and guys alike to get "used and abused".
I vehemently agree that for some there is a lack of understanding of the word "NO". No means no in no uncertain terms.... people sadly lack the understanding or indeed the respect to treat every human being as an individual and with TOTAL RESPECT.
People have varying motives for being in the porn industry- they enjoy sex, they believe it provides opportunities for them, etc. to assume your motive is the same as everybody elses is to assume that we are all identical beings- i have to tell you we are not.... we each have varying needs and desires and no person, no matter who or what they are should all be treated equally, as a human being with feelings....... lets get one thing straight here- i'm sure you'd agree, every person ultimately wants the same thing... they want to be happy. To abuse another persons trust or to impose yourself upon another person, or to fuck them around in whatever way it happens to be, shows a major ignorance of human nature.
Ultimately, it boils down to intention- two people can take an identical job or action but for very different reasons..... if you yield to the dark side within you it will fuel that dark side further.. it is never satisfied. If your intention is good- good will come back to you. If your motives are for lower purposes, for example, to fulfill the ego, to satisfy insatiable hunger or perhaps to take out feelings of low self-worth on others, then you will only get darkness back......
A silly but fantastic little saying: IF YOU ALWAYS DO WHAT YOUVE DONE, YOULL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOURE GOT.......
I believe it- there is so much truth there.... I believe also in karma- those who have misbehaved or bahaved in an unsavoury fashion, will, in no uncertain terms reap the negativity they have sown.
In defense of the porn industry, which i personally dont think is all that bad.. most of my experiences have been wonderful... because i love porn!! i have had the odd awkward moment, but generally its been a pretty good ride.
In all fairness i have to attribute some of the confusion to the girls themselves... talking of karma..... some of the girls i have encountered in the industry have come in with their eyes shut and I have witnessed some extreme displays of human behaviour..... i have witnessed this first hand, and their actions has almost certainly invited objectionable behaviour from another party towards them. Remember, you only get treated badly if you allow yourself to be. If you act like a self-loathing whore, baby.. youre gonna get treated like one!! The girls and guys need to take responsibilty of their actions- if they are not happy in themselves, the porn industry is not going to save them.
Find happiness within yourselves first........ if anybody feels they need to do some inner work by the way... i can put you on the right path, or give you some pointers in the right direction!! I have had experience in this field!!
I guess the reality of life is that there is good and bad out there. We cant stop either..... that is the way life perpetuates itself.......in every walk of life... what you can do however is to try and be a better person everyday.. no one is perfect.. pefection is a fantasy.. a bit like the porn industry...... Question your motives- are you doing this for the right reasons?? if you are feeding the lower life states then you will never find your personal hapiness.... love yourself first and the rest ought to fall into place. I promise this will work!!
Respect yourself and others will respect you- love yourself and people will treat you differently.... remember we are all the same deep down and we all derserve to be treated with fairness and respect.
I know some of this probably sounds pretty intense, but there is a a mountain of wisdom and truth within it.. think it over........... i am here to help, not just to give good head!!!
If my words can help just one person then my life has been worth while so think it over........... YOUR DESTINY IS IN YOUR HANDS!!
lots of love,
tiffanny x x x x x x x x
There are a multitude of problems with the porn industry- primarily there is no real regulation of what is going on... it is so unaccepted by the mainstream that there is plenty scope for girls and guys alike to get "used and abused".
I vehemently agree that for some there is a lack of understanding of the word "NO". No means no in no uncertain terms.... people sadly lack the understanding or indeed the respect to treat every human being as an individual and with TOTAL RESPECT.
People have varying motives for being in the porn industry- they enjoy sex, they believe it provides opportunities for them, etc. to assume your motive is the same as everybody elses is to assume that we are all identical beings- i have to tell you we are not.... we each have varying needs and desires and no person, no matter who or what they are should all be treated equally, as a human being with feelings....... lets get one thing straight here- i'm sure you'd agree, every person ultimately wants the same thing... they want to be happy. To abuse another persons trust or to impose yourself upon another person, or to fuck them around in whatever way it happens to be, shows a major ignorance of human nature.
Ultimately, it boils down to intention- two people can take an identical job or action but for very different reasons..... if you yield to the dark side within you it will fuel that dark side further.. it is never satisfied. If your intention is good- good will come back to you. If your motives are for lower purposes, for example, to fulfill the ego, to satisfy insatiable hunger or perhaps to take out feelings of low self-worth on others, then you will only get darkness back......
A silly but fantastic little saying: IF YOU ALWAYS DO WHAT YOUVE DONE, YOULL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOURE GOT.......
I believe it- there is so much truth there.... I believe also in karma- those who have misbehaved or bahaved in an unsavoury fashion, will, in no uncertain terms reap the negativity they have sown.
In defense of the porn industry, which i personally dont think is all that bad.. most of my experiences have been wonderful... because i love porn!! i have had the odd awkward moment, but generally its been a pretty good ride.
In all fairness i have to attribute some of the confusion to the girls themselves... talking of karma..... some of the girls i have encountered in the industry have come in with their eyes shut and I have witnessed some extreme displays of human behaviour..... i have witnessed this first hand, and their actions has almost certainly invited objectionable behaviour from another party towards them. Remember, you only get treated badly if you allow yourself to be. If you act like a self-loathing whore, baby.. youre gonna get treated like one!! The girls and guys need to take responsibilty of their actions- if they are not happy in themselves, the porn industry is not going to save them.
Find happiness within yourselves first........ if anybody feels they need to do some inner work by the way... i can put you on the right path, or give you some pointers in the right direction!! I have had experience in this field!!
I guess the reality of life is that there is good and bad out there. We cant stop either..... that is the way life perpetuates itself.......in every walk of life... what you can do however is to try and be a better person everyday.. no one is perfect.. pefection is a fantasy.. a bit like the porn industry...... Question your motives- are you doing this for the right reasons?? if you are feeding the lower life states then you will never find your personal hapiness.... love yourself first and the rest ought to fall into place. I promise this will work!!
Respect yourself and others will respect you- love yourself and people will treat you differently.... remember we are all the same deep down and we all derserve to be treated with fairness and respect.
I know some of this probably sounds pretty intense, but there is a a mountain of wisdom and truth within it.. think it over........... i am here to help, not just to give good head!!!
If my words can help just one person then my life has been worth while so think it over........... YOUR DESTINY IS IN YOUR HANDS!!
lots of love,
tiffanny x x x x x x x x