Female Adult Performer Cripples Man

[countb]

The best domme in Manchester works out of a posh place in a converted warehouse www.missbrycejones .com(hope this works)
Her site is worth a google as she has every piece of equipment going.
Strange thing is that her and I go racing as friends and shes a puddy cat out of work and fuckin attractive too.
But then shes never beaten me up LOL

[Masie]

I could not agree more with the start of this post. As a sub the difference in Doms is huge and as your health and saftey is in their hands it is a scary thought that some girls set up private shop without doing a few shared sessions. When i first got into porn i did a free shoot Knowing Kaz b would be there so i could learn from her. When I started doing Camera work i went to Dave and had some lessons and i still make him sit down with me after every shoot and evaluate everything as im still not there yet.

There is a huge difference between being hit by someone who knows where to hit you and someone who is just hitting you. The whole point of being dominated is the thrill and the sting and it has to be the right kind of pain (I know thats a hard stament to get your head around but if your into it you will get it). For example i have been on a shoot taking a paddle where someone has missed and got me across the back of the spine. That is not only very dangerous but hurts like a mother fucker and poor Tanya (who was holding me down) can voutch for the scream that came from my mouth. However I was fully enjoying the pain i had got before that when the paddle had hit traget.

Finally something again that as a sub really frustrates me, being a dom is not something you can do well if your just doing it for the money. You can train someone to hit the right points and say the right thing but if they are not a dom on the inside the sub can feel it and it just feels flat, its like playing. I did a scene with a dom a few weeks ago and the atmospher was so good that we acidentally over ran by 20 minutes on the scene and only stopped when the camera ran out of tape. Im sorry to keep bangging on about her but Kaz is a stunning example of the perfect dom as its not the pain she inflicts on you, its her voice and the way she looks at you. She is a lovely fluffy person outside the dungeon but when your in their with her you just want to fall over yourself to please her and she is able to use thois to push you to taking new amounts of controlled pain to push your own pleasures as it were. The mental role of the dom is just as important as the actual beatings etc and for people who are into humiliation etc someone who is a true dom is able to take you there where as someone who is just pretending can not.

[KazB]

Wow what a lovely post from Masie! It always helps having such a little sexy minx to play sub of course and Masie is one of the best I know - here's the trailer if you want a sneak preview of what happened on the shoot.



I have been doing pro-domme shoots and one-one bdsm sessions since 2007. I agree it's something that can not be learnt over night - my experience to date is comprised of dozens of texts, sites, personal accounts, sessions, and networking in the fetish community and ESPECIALLY playing around in private with my boyf. We switch between dom/sub so you have an understanding of how it feels to be the sub too (but also because we're horny little fuckers )

Having been on the submissive end of a spanking shoot that went horribly wrong, I cannot emphasise how essential a consideration for health and safety is in this game. I have heard some awful horror stories from my subs where they were unable to escape and the dom wouldn't stop kicking them in the balls even though they begged - that is not power play, it is abuse.

Kim is absolutely right a safeword is not debatable, it is a necessity.

During private sessions when entering into any extreme practises I would also advise gaining some medical knowledge of the sub - have they any heart conditions, allergies or health concerns or do they wear a pacemmaker? Are they on any medication? Any existing injuries or back problems?

Has equipment been checked before the session? Is it sterile/safe? Do you have plenty of latex gloves? If both parties have agreed there may be some abrasions then take care to see no blood is exchanged - ie blood from a cut on a spanking implement.

Health and safety checks - do you have some scissors/similar to hand in case of fire?

Is room clear of any hazards - ie water near plugs near a tied up sub!!

Sarah raises some brilliant points. If you start gently and pace your sub they will warm up slowly and be able to take more and find more pleasure in it than if you go hell for leather straight away. It's always better to leave them wanting something more. If a subs complains it's not hard enough - they are a crap sub - more of a masochist actually!

I am curious to know what sort of "crippling" Anjum envisages? Do you think it's the men being pushed by fantasy and unrealistic about their bodies abilities or that girls are too willing to rush in quickly with no experience or knowledge?

[BNMedia]

As someone who as been producing ballbusting movies for four years I have come accross many girls who have redirected their career path down the dom route. In fact I have personally introduced several new girls to the bdsm scene. Some have successfully taken on the guise as pro dom and others have not been so lucky. Perhaps the ones that have been more fortunate in becoming a successful doms are the ones that have done their homework and have earned respect from clients from doing a good job!
I have seen girls who have not known how to use a flogger and have inadvertantly caused the wrong type of pain. This is not something that I get involved with but I know others that do. It is down to the producer or established dom to take any new girls under their wing to demonstrate safe practices and does and dont's. Their is also a lot of phsychology involved in that a good dom needs to be able to know how far they can push a sub mentally and physically. I agree that these are things that may often go overlooked.

[davey]

i have worked as a photographer in the fetish industry for 5 years and been going to fetish clubs for about 12.i have met numerous Mistresses and can probably count on one hand the amount of good ones who started off in the porn industry.the ones who spring to mind are Mistress Vixen and Mistress R'eal.the Mistresses who come from Australia and learn in places like Salon Kittys do a form of apprenticeship where they learn from established Prodommes as do most of the best English Mistresses.at the very least they are active in the fetish scene. i think most of them would recoil in horror at statements such as Kims "The girls have to learn somewhere & i myself have lost count how many canes & paddles i broke before i got it right".most girls who move into it from the porn industry are little more then "hookers with whips".BDSM is not about beating the shit out of someone it is about learning the mindset and understanding the power exchange.that is the basics if you dont understand that you will never be a Prodomme.As regards safewords players heavier into the scene quite often agree not to use one thereby relinquishing all control to the Mistress but then again any sub with their head screwed on is only going to agree to do that with someone who is very experienced and inspires confidence not someone who has only been doing sessions for 3 or 4 years.kaz wants to know what sort of crippling can occur.i remember about 5 years ago a bloke was having a CBT session and the Domme was using a parachute with weights.she put too much weights in and it ripped his scrotum.very very nasty.there are a lot of dangerous activities out there .breath control,electrics,scrotal inflation any of these go wrong and they can kill you.even a serious caning with a Dragon cane could cripple someone for life.there is one Mistress operating in London at the moment who is injecting subs with ketamine during medical scenarios pure fucking insanity!i have read every post in this thread and Anjum Pearce definetly knows what he is talking about

[paul jones]

Have to agree with Maise.

A while back a girl I had done some Bg with asked me to dom her for a video.

Which meant hitting her with a multi whipped whip.

She kept asking me to hit harder, but nope, I don't hit people (well not since I was 13, and he deserved it) and even though she wanted me to, I couldn't. End of my BDSM career. I tried sub, but that just doesn't work for me either.

I've done spanking girls, but that was all "cupped for maximum noise and much acting" style, so OK.

[countb]

anjum,theres a place nr Manchester called TJs,
anything goes there...shagging on the stairs,trannies walking around(very popular but not my cup of tea)...ive even known a mass orgy in the kitchen!
Seriously though,a lot of the girls administer pain etc and are very expert at it because the owner TJ herself has trained them.A safe word is imperative as posted earlier and it all works tickety boo.
Only concern I would have about this place is the blokes who book for suffocation.Only one girl knows the limits on this.Well dangerous in my opinion.

[HoneyB]

I have been working as a Domme (& now term myself as a Pro Domme) for just over 2 years. Originally I got into it via doing Domme scenes for ballbusting & facesitting sites.
However when I decided to make the jump into private domming sessions, I went & chatted to 2 long time Pro Dommes 1st who I knew through meeting people in & out of the industry. One trained me fully in caning & whipping, using one of her subs. The other runs a dungeon (& been domming for over 10 years) & over a period of a couple of months she took me through all of the equipment in the dungeon, taught me how to use them, allowed me to site in on some sessions & then gradually take part in sessions with a small amuunt of pay.
Only once I felt I knew enough did I then start advertising & I charged less & made it clear that though I had been trained I was quite new. Some subs but their trust in me & came to see me (& they are still regulars of mine to this day). I have built things (& my rates up) from there & term myself a Pro Domme. Every time a new bit of equipment comes into the dungeon I go & familiarise myself with it & discuss it with the Domme who runs the place. As I want to know exactly what I am doing & how exactly it can harm someone before I use it.

I always issue a safeword & respect limits (I do not do sessions without safe words), everything is kept clean & sanitised. If using any form of pain in a session ( Some sessions are just purely verbal humiliation & footworship)then I ask about health & heart issues with the sub. I wear gloves at all times when issuing pain & although I cause marks, I never do blood drawing/letting.

I do agree that girls need to train before calling themselves Pro Dommes, whether coming from the modellg/porn industry or even outside it as if done wrong it can be lethal.