Time to end sexist language in porn?

[beutelwolf]

andy at handiwork wrote:

> Really? What if a white guy in a porn video was to call a black
> woman 'N****r ', or vice versa? I dont think it would matter
> how it was said or what the feeling was behind it. It would be
> unacceptable, degrading, demeaning and have a ton of baggage
> with it.

Regarding the vice versa, that would be just weird: a black woman calling a white guy the n-word...

[eroticartist]

Harmony,
It's good to hear a women speak out, Mike.

[andy at handiwork]

I think we can assume I meant a white woman calling a black man 'N*****'. Though when I think about it, it isn't really in the nature of porn for that reversal of the power relationship to happen very much.

[belfast_birty]

Has PC arrived in porn? I hope not.

[harmonyhex]

If a word is said to cause offense then it wouldn't matter what the word was.

It is not word itself that is degrading. Its how its used.

A lot of black men and women use that word when referring to other black men or women, so proof that the word itself is not racist, unacceptable, demeaning or whatever else.

[johnsmith09]

As the delightful Harmony has mentioned above it's quite harmless when said in context of the situation the both of you are in. Good to see you back too Harmony.

[Sam Slater]

Try these:

Option 1: "My dearest flower, would you lighten my mood a little by placing my soon-to-be erect penis onto your ever-so-inviting moist tongue, and look up at me with those adorable baby blues? If you could find it in you to honour me this way......why I think I should burst with joy!"

Option 2: "I bet you look a right dirty bitch with a cock in your mouth!"


Now, if you look like Brad Pitt both these options are likely to work. If you're good looking and try option 1 she'll assume you're so confident with women you can afford to fuck around. She'll find the lines funny and the confidence sexy. If you're good looking and choose option 2 she'll just think you're a little cocky but that's ok because.........well.........you're good looking and she now knows you're into her!

Sadly, if you look more like Bill Oddie than Brad Pitt there's a good chance neither will get you anywhere. Option 1 will leave her assuming she's walked into the web of a psychopath and she's just thinking how horrible it will be for her Mum to identify her mangled corpse, while option 2 will have her thinking you're just a sad perv and a swift kick in the testicles might save her from being sexually assaulted in some way.

If you're somewhere in between Brad Pitt and Bill Oddie my guess is you'll have more success with option 2.

[jimslip]

What I can't understand with all this violence stuff, is this, if women "love" it so much, why when guys meet a nice girl in a bar , (well, unless they're an escapee from Broadmoor), don't they saunter up to her and say,

"Listen here you fuckin' cum whore, I know ya desperate for my cock, ya filthy bitch slut! Let me take ya back to my place and I'll stuff it up ya arse and while I'm fuckin' it hard, I'll gob all over your face and throttle ya, cos I know ya want it!"

Why not? 'Cos any girl would think you were a psychopath and call for help. So, the only reason your GF/wife lets you treat her like that, when your shagging her is because she knows for sure, you're NOT a psycho. So, in spite of you getting off on supposedly "brutalising her" and feeling awfully macho, in fact, it is SHE who is in control and just exploiting your weakness, for her pleasure! The moment it ever became real, she'd be on the phone to the police and you'd be dragged off for assault and quite right too!

In other words women always hold all the cards, they're just very clever at making you think you are holding them!

Women, you've got ta love 'em, I expect they've been twiddling us around their fingers since Neanderthal times! lol

[frankthring]

Your point Mr Slip - regarding women holding all the cards - is a good
one because that is exactly what happens - on camera and off !
On camera - whether a girl lets herself be called dirty names, gets
off on it or does not give a flying fuck, it is she who is picking up the fat
fee, not the stud, it is she the fans want to see and lust after !
In real life I am just as convinced they pull all the strings......or it seems
that way to me !

[jimslip]

Frank you mean in reality it's a bit like:

US:
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THEM:
[img]http://www.image-entertainment.com/imag ... C5A%7D.JPG[/img]