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Dibble your last comment is the ONE thing that gives me enough strength to go on when things get on top of me - no matter how bad things are there is always someone out there worse off who would swap with u. Helps to put things into context even if just for a few mins but that few mins can be the difference between life and death in those situations.

Jay

I thought that report was from the WHO not written by your usual suspects Dibble.
But , as ever, you bring your own agenda into it.

Mart

"I thought that report was from the WHO not written by your usual suspects Dibble."

All these non-commercial organisations, all these NGO sorts, are the same the world over - characterised by a hand wringing, left of centre philosophy and a pretentiously, poncy, distain of commerce.


"But , as ever, you bring your own agenda into it. "

Which particular agenda did you mean? I have so many...


Officer Dibble

Quite. Maybe you can take comfort from some of my life experiences.

There have been times in my life, as in yours, when I have felt bad about myself and had a deficit of confidence. Even though I could see that there were loads of people who were worse off than me (or crapper, if you like). But that seemed to be small consolation - the bar of excellence and the standards I aspired to were set so high that I thought there was no way of me ever getting near to them. I did not have the power. I was useless. I was losing my self-respect.

But things can turn round. I unexpectedly stumbled into areas of life where I found that I was the 'the man'. I was successful, I had to get myself a bigger wallet, people looked up to me, respected me, asked my advice. Then, as if by magic, the kind of girls who I could previously only dream about become, 'available' to me. I had to pinch myself, had I metamorphosis into Brad Pitt? No. It was still the same old me staring back through the mirror. The difference was a degree of success and a mature, easy going, self-confidence. It creates a magic aura around you, women find it attractive and positive things seem to happen to you from then on. So, chin up Jay. If the web store pans out you'll be sitting pretty, it'll give you an enormous boost, and if it doesn't, what they heck, just try something else.

Officer Dibble

I will stick up for the Officer here. So what if he bought his agenda into it? I'm glad he did- he's right!

Jay- I'm also 28, also single, can relate to many of the things you're saying. I wish you all the best with your venture and if, in my capacity as wannabe producer, we end up doing business at some point in the future, I'll look forward to making your acquaintance.

Blimey, this forum's turning into a group therapy meeting!

"I will stick up for the Officer here."

You're a very nice chap.


Officer Dibble

Be warned Ben, if you do business with Dibble, say goodbye to your money. He has a track record of "unfortunate" accidents happening.

Mart

Your posts are spot on Dibble, and I could identify with them. I speak from the perspective of a single 28 year old man, with ordinary looks, who is quite shy. I have never wanted suicide, the things that keep me going are the things a enjoy/want: Porn, cars, shopping, sex, the internet, my career etc. Suicidal people need to be taught to focus on the things they want. Once people run out of things to enjoy/want, I think people turn to suicide.

I personally think people need to be taught from an early age to "make the best" of their lives. Look at "professor Stephen Hawking". He is ugly, cant move without the use of an electric chair. He cant talk, except through a computer. He has overcome these faults, to become a world famous scientist. I once heard the phrase "life is like a game of cards, you have to make the best of a bad hand." I like the phrase, its very positive. It emphasises that nobody is perfect.

I know its easy to say phrases like that, but I think that any able bodied or partially able bodied person can find something to enjoy, even if their life is not ideal. Feeling sorry for yourself just makes things worse.

Thanks for the tip. I was addressing the remarks about business to Jay (R18 DVD Shop) though.

Bloody hell, I'm pretty shocked that so many people have considered such an act. I was at college with a guy who killed himself, on his 17th Birthday, it was truly horrendous and we, his mates, could never quite get our heads 'round it.

I'm always amazed and humbled at how people who experience the most devastating personal losses find the strength to carry on, the guy whose wife and kids get wiped out in a car accident for instance who somehow manages to rebuild a life.